“Why didn’t you just leave?” If you’ve been in a narcissistic relationship in any way, shape, or form, whether it’s family or partner, you’ve heard this question. It sounds so simple, like walking away from abuse is as easy as packing a bag and closing a door. But when you’re living it? It’s never that ... Read more
Everyone says, “Just go no contact.” Cut them off. Block them. Walk away. But what if you can’t? What if the narcissist you’re dealing with is your parents? Your boss? Your ex you have kids with? Walking away isn’t always an option, and pretending it is only makes you feel more stuck, more broken, and ... Read more
The day I finally cut off my narcissistic family, it didn’t feel like freedom. It felt like grief. And panic. And guilt so thick I could barely breathe. I remember standing in my kitchen, staring at my phone after blocking both my sister’s and mother’s numbers, hands sweating, breathing heavily. For a second, I almost ... Read more
The first time I tried to set boundaries with my toxic family, they looked at me like I’d lost my mind. I told them I wouldn’t tolerate being yelled at anymore. My narcissistic mother rolled her eyes. My toxic older sister smirked. Two days later, it happened again, louder. That’s when I realized: I wasn’t ... Read more
After I cut ties with my narcissistic family, I thought I was healing. I journaled every day. Meditated every morning. Read every book about “finding inner peace.” On the outside, I looked like a damn healing poster child. But inside? I still flinched when I heard my phone buzz. I still replay arguments from years ... Read more
I remember the exact moment I realized my narcissistic ex and family enjoyed seeing me suffer. 98% of the time, I had to pour my heart out, explaining how discarded I felt, how it crushed me when they shut me out with silence. They just looked at me. And smirked. That smile did something to ... Read more
Let me tell you the part that messed with my head the most: Calling out my toxic family didn’t lead to growth, resolution, or even an honest conversation. Nope. It led to them crying, them telling everyone how hurt they were, and somehow, me being painted as the villain for finally speaking up. For years, ... Read more
Ever found yourself begging for closure from someone who broke you, only to be met with silence, blame, or worse, a blank stare? I remember sitting on the edge of my bed, clutching my phone like it was a lifeline. I had just sent my narcissistic older sister another message, one final attempt to get ... Read more
I tell myself it’s no big deal. That you’re just “too picky.” But deep down, I don’t trust people, and it’s not a personality flaw. It’s trauma. I grew up walking on eggshells. In a home where love came with conditions and trust felt dangerous, I learned early that being vulnerable often led to pain. ... Read more
Ever had a narcissist look you dead in the eye and say, “I don’t know what you’re talking about,” right after doing something that hurt you? I have lost count of how many times that happened between my narcissistic family and I. I remember standing in my kitchen, shaking, trying to explain to someone I ... Read more
