I wasted years of my life waiting for closure from my narcissistic family. Years. Years of hoping for a conversation that would never happen. Years of daydreaming about that perfect apology that was never coming. Years of explaining my pain to people who never cared about understanding it in the first place. And do you … Read more
Let’s get one thing straight. Just because your family refuses to apologize doesn’t mean you’re wrong for wanting for one. You’re not being dramatic. You’re not holding a grudge. You’re asking for something they don’t know how to give: accountability. In families where narcissism runs the show, you learn quickly that your feelings don’t matter … Read more
If you’ve ever found yourself going in circles, trying to explain your pain to someone who refuses to hear it, this is for you. Especially if that someone happens to be a narcissist. I used to think if I just explained myself clearly enough, they’d finally understand. That they’d hear the pain in my voice, … Read more
You ever walk away from a conversation with a narcissist thinking, “Damn… why didn’t I say THAT?” Yeah, same. I used to freeze. Smile. Shrink. Let the insult slide while my gut was screaming. Narcissists are calculated. They don’t slap you with obvious cruelty, they stab you with those polished little jabs that look harmless … Read more
Funny how no one says anything while you’re slowly being destroyed behind closed doors. No one asks if you’re okay. No one steps in when the insults get sharper. No one dares to challenge the person doing the damage. But the second you speak up, suddenly everyone remembers something. Suddenly, they knew all along. Suddenly, … Read more
Understanding the roots doesn’t excuse the damage, but it explains everything. The pain that started it all. I didn’t just study narcissism, I lived it. I was born to a narcissistic mother who saw me as an extension of herself, not a child with my own voice. I dated a narcissist who twisted my emotions … Read more
If you told me ten years ago I’d be grateful for the woman who called me “ugly, loser, dumb, ungrateful” while growing up, I would’ve laughed in your face and handed you a therapist’s number. But here I am, decades later, and I finally get it. My narcissistic mother didn’t raise me. She trained me. … Read more
Walking away from a narcissistic relationship feels like waking up after a bad dream, except the damage lingers long after they’re gone. I remember the constant self-doubt, the endless questioning of whether I was too sensitive or overreacting. It took me years to unlearn the lies they fed me and recognize my own worth again. … Read more
If you’ve ever tried to get a narcissist to tell the truth, you know it feels like talking to a f*cking brick wall. They dodge, deflect, and suddenly, you’re the one questioning your reality. The more you push, the more they manipulate, and before you know it, you’re spiraling. I spent 20 years navigating the … Read more
For a long time, I thought that walking away from the narcissists in my life would be the hardest part. Turns out it wasn’t. The hardest part was what came after. The silence. The overthinking. The grief for a version of me I lost in the chaos. I had already cut them off. But somehow, … Read more
